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Excerpt from my upcoming book: ENDING WAR

Chapter 7: Personal Responsibility

One of the most unfortunate things about war is that the people who fight are ordinary people who somehow become convinced that they need to take up arms against an external enemy who presents an existential threat. Wars are not fought by the elites who pass the laws and make the decisions that send people to the battlefield. They are not fought by the politicians who decide that a certain country presents a threat that needs to be neutralized or by the journalists who write opinion pieces glorifying war. They are not fought by the think tanks who come up with slick arguments in support of war or by the weapons manufacturers who churn out the instruments of death. They are fought by ordinary people who are brainwashed into blindly and unquestioningly believing what they are told. The soldiers who sacrifice their lives on the battlefield are unfortunately seen as nothing more than a mass of disposable bodies that are used to forward the agendas of the elites. Their lives mean nothing to the people who send them out to die. They are treated as nothing more than numbers, not people with families, dreams, ambitions and a higher purpose. The death of a soldier is not viewed as a tragic and avoidable loss of life but as an expected consequence of war. Since the work of a soldier is to fight an enemy who is just as determined as they are to kill before getting killed, the death of a soldier is deemed a normal and acceptable part of war. While the death of civilians is treated as regrettable and to be avoided at all costs, the death of a soldier is treated as if it is unimportant. This dehumanization is what allows wars to continue and we have all been brainwashed into accepting this as normal.

War is nothing more than a scam that makes billions of dollars for certain people. This is something that is acknowledged even by former soldiers who connect the dots once they see the reality of war and how meaningless it is. When they compare the propaganda they were fed during training with the reality on the battlefield, those who are capable of reflection usually end up with moral injury. They discover that the ideals they thought they were fighting for are nothing more than a mirage that completely vanishes on the battlefield. Unfortunately, this reality of war is rarely talked about in the mainstream media that is completely captured by the war complex. The ordinary person is only exposed to the narrative that calls for more and more war and rarely gets to hear any opposing ideas. The only way we will come out of this rabbit hole is by people taking responsibility for themselves and thinking for themselves. We have to reject the idea that we are nothing more than bodies that can be used to serve the agendas of the elites.

Should you join the military?

If people knew the truth about the war industry, no one would ever volunteer to join the military which is why they go to such great lengths to hide the reality of it. The military is sold as a noble institution and working for the military is portrayed as a heroic service to your country, an act of valour which protects our freedom and democracy. In the West, the military is supposedly the institution that guarantees Western hegemony, which in turn maintains the so-called “rules-based order”. It is assumed that this rules-based order is what we all want, even though no one ever tells us what these rules are, who wrote them and why we should obey them. A military “career” – if killing people can be considered a career – is seen as prestigious and lucrative, with benefits that include travel to various exotic locations around the world. But nobody tells the young men and women who join the military exactly what they are signing up for. Before you decide to join the military, you need to understand that it is not an adventure that opens doors for you to explore the world and earn good money while you’re at it. It is important to consider all the facts, not just what the PR machine churns out. The thing no one mentions when they carry out their recruitment exercises is that joining the military is akin to signing a contract with the devil. You are committing not only to killing people when called upon to do so but also sacrificing your own life in case you end up on the wrong side of the barrel. Before signing such a contract, ask yourself if you are okay with that. It’s not just about the money and the adventure but about the deeper questions that arise from such a commitment. Is killing people something you agree with or would even think of doing in the normal course of life? If not, why sign up for a career that requires you to do just that? Such ethical questions are never addressed during the recruitment exercise. This is about taking responsibility for yourself and the decisions you make. You cannot wait until the day you find yourself on the battlefield to start asking questions. When you join the military, you need to understand what you are signing up for. You have to see beyond the enticements and see clearly what you will be getting yourself into. Do not be fooled by the rosy picture of travelling the world and earning a good living for yourself and your family. At some point, you will be called upon to fight, meaning you will be required to kill other people who are also trying to kill you. This is what the military is at its core. If you have watched a war movie, you know that the battlefield is a horrible mess of blood and gore. Why would you consciously subject yourself to this? Why would you volunteer for this when no one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to do so? Is any amount of money worth the psychological suffering you will experience after seeing the reality of what war entails? Are you ready to give up your limbs in service to someone else’s delusional and insane agenda? Because the idea that war is a noble service to society is pure lunatic ideology. Everything they tell us to justify war is pure propaganda and lies. We have been manipulated into believing that there is an enemy out there trying to destroy us when in reality the enmity is dreamt up by the very people who ask us to fight. It is all for their benefit.

The thing no one mentions when they carry out their recruitment exercises is that joining the military is akin to signing a contract with the devil. You are committing not only to killing people when called upon to do so but also sacrificing your own life in case you end up on the wrong side of the barrel. Before signing such a contract, ask yourself if you are okay with that.

If you are lucky enough to escape death or bodily injuries on the battlefield, you need to consider the psychological wounds you are likely to suffer once you experience war. Killing does not come naturally to most human beings and hence you cannot escape the consequences of going against your God-given nature. When you kill others, you may tell yourself that you have done nothing wrong because we have been taught to justify evil for the “greater good”. But the reality is that when you hurt others, you are hurting yourself first and foremost because we are all connected. We have been taught to see ourselves not as spiritual beings but as slightly advanced animals. But this is not true. We are extensions of our creator and we are all connected at inner levels. This is why many soldiers simply fall apart when they leave the battlefield. We know that many soldiers suffer from depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) when they leave the battlefield. They experience guilt, grief, regret and inner torment for their part in the war. Many of them experience moral injury as a result of the things they saw on the battlefield. These are the real effects of their attempt to deny their spiritual nature and the spiritual nature of those they harmed who are also created in God’s image. The resulting trauma is undeniable, which is why we have high levels of suicide among soldiers. The military of course pretends to study the cause of these suicides while ignoring the obvious cause which is that human beings are not wired to be killers.

The other thing no one ever tells you when they recruit you into the military is that sexual assault and harassment are rampant within the military. Why would you join an institution where your chances of being sexually assaulted are much higher than if you stayed out? Why would you take an action that is against your own self-interest? The military is a den of the worst human beings on earth and you need to be aware of this before you sign up. The majority of people who join the military are decent people who unfortunately become deceived by the PR machine into believing that they are serving their country. But we would be naïve not to expect that sociopaths would be attracted to a career in the military because it offers them the opportunity to harm people and get paid for it. Therefore, before you join the military, be aware that you are joining an institution that is home to some of the worst people on the planet. You can expect behaviours that are normally associated with sociopaths to be rampant in the military. Before you sign that contract, ask yourself what the consequences will be for you personally. Forget what everyone tells you. Once you join the military, you will be on your own facing the consequences of your choices. There will be no one to blame for whatever happens on the battlefield because no one forced you to join the military. And if you think you will be able to quit if you don’t like it, think again. The military is not an institution you can simply walk away from like any other institution. You don’t get to quit just because you don’t like it. You will have to see your contract through to the end. Therefore, think twice, thrice, a hundred times before you decide to join the military.

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Raise your awareness

One of the biggest problems we face concerning war is that most ordinary people simply feel that it has nothing to do with them. We are programmed to believe that such topics are best left to the experts and that we have nothing to contribute. The so-called “experts”, unfortunately, only lead us in one direction which is more war. Their only qualification, in reality, is that they are the most aggressive people on the planet and therefore their voices are the loudest. These people speak out aggressively and authoritatively about war, making everyone else feel as if they have nothing important to say. We are made to feel as if our opinions do not matter. Our opinions are made to look naïve and uninformed, so most of us simply lose interest and stop focusing on such issues, leaving the “experts” to say whatever they want. The reality is that war is not a complicated subject that the average person cannot understand. The reason we are made to feel like we don’t understand this subject is that the logic used to justify war is fallen logic, where good is made to appear evil and evil is made to appear good. As an example, in the Russia-Ukraine war we are told that the West is sending massive amounts of weapons to Ukraine to support freedom and democracy in that country. This doesn’t make sense. We know logically that sending weapons to Ukraine only worsens and prolongs the war. We are also told that the West is leading an economic offensive to punish Russia, even though we can see that the sanctions are only causing suffering to the West and the entire planet. This action is completely illogical. Because the logic used to justify war does not follow common sense, we are made to feel that it is too complicated for the average person to understand. If anyone attempts to challenge this logic, they are viciously attacked and accused of all manner of things, which serves the purpose of silencing dissent and discouraging people from expressing their opinions for fear of being attacked. This is the main reason why the topic of war is dominated by the most aggressive voices that keep the planet permanently at war.

As an example, in the Russia-Ukraine war we are told that the West is sending massive amounts of weapons to Ukraine to support freedom and democracy in that country. This doesn’t make sense. We know logically that sending weapons to Ukraine only worsens and prolongs the war.

What is your responsibility in all this? It is to keep yourself informed on what is happening on the planet and trust your ability to understand and form an intelligent opinion. Read extensively on the wars that are currently taking place and find out what the issues are. Use your common sense to form opinions and draw your own conclusions. You do not need to rely on the opinions of so-called “experts” because chances are that the opinions expressed by these experts are the opposite of what common sense dictates. The people currently in positions of authority making the most important decisions on the planet are the least qualified to do so which is why they must make whatever they do sound complicated. Anyone with common sense can understand whatever is happening on the planet and make logical conclusions. Your responsibility is to educate yourself and use your logic to understand war. It is not too complicated: war = bad; peace = good. Anyone who tries to spin this any other way is outright lying to us and we have no obligation to listen to them.

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Let your voice be heard

One of major problem facing the anti-war movement is that anti-war voices are not being heard. The aggressive narratives promoting war are the only ones being heard, mainly because such narratives are amplified by the mainstream media. As a result, even though most ordinary people do not want war, we continue having wars because our voices are not heard. Any anti-war voice is portrayed as naïve and unrealistic. Aggression and violence are normalized while being anti-war is made to look like a radical, unusual idea. The word “pacifist” is a dirty word in today’s politics. The few voices that attempt to speak out against war are viciously attacked. This state of affairs has become so outrageous that even though we are one miscalculation away from nuclear war, no one seems interested in talking about peace. In the United Kingdom, it has become customary for anyone aspiring to become prime minister to unequivocally state that they are willing to use nuclear weapons. Nuclear war seems almost inevitable at this point. We remain silent because our world has been turned into a place where being aggressive is normal while being rational and cautious is abnormal. Those who oppose war must start to speak out otherwise our planet will be destroyed by people who have lost the ability to think rationally. Your responsibility, therefore, is to let your voice be heard. Speak out against war and be silent no more. If enough of us speak out, then we will eventually drown out the voices of the minority who are the loudest and most aggressive. There are many ways to speak out; you only need to be creative and do what you’re comfortable with. You could start a blog in which you talk about war or you could write an article or two about war in an existing blog. You could write letters to your local politician expressing your views. You could write letters to your local newspaper. You could take it upon yourself to forward any interesting anti-war articles or videos to your social media groups.

As you speak out, remember to raise awareness about the prospect of nuclear war we are currently facing. We are in an extremely precarious position but the world doesn’t seem to notice. We have unfortunately been lulled into a false sense of security by the myth of Mutually Assured Destruction (MAD), which is nothing more than a lie that keeps us passive. We have been led to believe that nuclear war can never happen because no one would be insane enough to risk mutually assured destruction. But we know for a fact that we have psychopaths in positions of power who would not hesitate to destroy the entire planet if pushed to a corner. We know that many elites today are building underground bunkers in preparation for some sort of apocalypse. Why do you think that is? What do they know that the rest of us don’t? We must understand that the ruling elites do not see themselves as one with the rest of us, which is why they would prepare underground bunkers to protect themselves while not caring about the rest of us. Rather than do the sensible thing which is use their power, wealth and influence to avert such a catastrophe, what they are doing instead is preparing to burrow underground like the rats they are while the rest of us are destroyed. This is the mentality these people have and they are the ones currently controlling the planet. Going by their behaviour, I would say that nuclear war is imminent. As long as the world remains silent under the false belief that nuclear war could never happen, we are simply sleepwalking towards our collective annihilation. Therefore, make it a part of your speaking out efforts to talk about the potential for nuclear war and the need to ban nuclear weapons from the planet.

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How to Survive the Global Elites’ Attempted Coup

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They have tried to disguise their plans with several innocuous-sounding euphemisms. The Great Reset. The Fourth Industrial Revolution. The New World Order. Agenda 21. Transhumanism. They make it all sound so good. The utopia we have always dreamt of, finally here. No more poverty. No more hunger. No more disease. No more ageing. Who could argue with that? A perfect world where all our hopes and dreams finally come true. Except, what they promise is not what they will ultimately deliver. The road to their utopia will be strewn with our bodies and will end up in our enslavement. They are not trying to solve world problems but to take control of the world and run it, whether we like it or not. If you think all this sounds extreme, then you haven’t been paying attention. Our world is gradually and incrementally being taken over by a small group of elites who want nothing less than our total and unconditional submission. All the senseless things that are happening in the world today like the brutal restrictions on our freedoms and the attempt to push the world towards World War III are all part of the global elites’ attempt to forcefully take over the world. They want to destroy our spirits so that we quietly submit to whatever they plan to do.

Anyone who has watched the Netflix show House of Cards will be familiar with how the elites weaponize fear to control people. The Underwoods who are the protagonists in the show frequently turned to threats of terror attacks to win elections and distract people from their scandals. Fear is a very effective weapon and the elites know this very well. When people are afraid, they set aside their rational thinking and become easily manipulated and controlled. We are seeing this same playbook being used against us, especially over the last few years. The whole climate change narrative is meant to scare us into allowing the elites to introduce whatever changes they want to bring. The covid-19 pandemic is being aggressively weaponised to subdue the global population. From lockdowns to social distancing to face masks, we are being forced to give up our autonomy and submit to infringements on our basic rights. Other events we see unfolding today like the war in Ukraine and the fuel shortages around the world are meant to break our spirits and bring us closer to the global elites’ utopia which is whereby they have total control of every aspect of our lives.

Fear is a very effective weapon and the elites know this very well. When people are afraid, they set aside their rational thinking and become easily manipulated and controlled.

To survive the global elites’ attempted coup, we need to have strategies that will make it impossible for them to control us as well as strategies for healing ourselves. Below are some suggestions.

Stop following the news

The mainstream media is owned by and functions for the benefit of the global elite. They long ago realized that if they wanted to control the masses, they had to own the news. Therefore, everything we hear in the mainstream media is nothing more than propaganda. They do everything they can to give us a vision of the world that serves their purpose. They program us to see the world the way they want us to see it. They manipulate us into accepting the changes they are implementing and seeing them as either inevitable or the natural course of evolution. They use the media to spread fear which makes us more pliable. Gone are the days when we could trust the media to tell us the truth and keep the government in check. Today the media is owned by the elites and serves their agendas. We saw how the established media was used to spread fear during the covid-19 pandemic. This was not accidental. The non-stop coverage of the pandemic and the fearful statistics were meant to break our spirits and make us easier to control. This strategy is still going on today with the non-stop coverage of wars, disasters and other crises. How do you survive this? Well, the only way they can get to you is if you allow them to do so by giving them your attention. Most of us have been programmed to believe that we need to always be up to date with what is happening around us. There is nothing inherently wrong with this, but if someone decides to weaponize this by only feeding us garbage, then it is time to cut off the ties. They can’t break your spirit if you simply stop listening to them. They can’t feed you propaganda if you are not paying attention. At the end of the day, we have all the power. They can only take away our power if we give it to them. So, take back your power by refusing to listen to their fear-mongering. You will find that your mental health improves, your anxiety goes away and you feel at peace with the world.

Free yourself from Google

Google is no longer the source of knowledge it used to be. Today, it is nothing more than an anti-knowledge tool for the elites. Check out what Zach Vorhies, the google whistle-blower has to say about google here. When you search using google, their algorithms make sure you only get to see whatever they want you to see. Any information that does not serve their agenda is suppressed. Any information that goes against their agenda is hidden in the darkest corners of the internet where it never sees the light of day. This is censorship at its worst, no better than the book burning that used to happen in the dark ages. Who made google the gods who can discern what is and what isn’t truth? How will humanity ever evolve if new ideas that don’t serve the elites are suppressed? If we allow such people to take over, we will not only stop evolving but will surely start devolving because the only ideas that will be allowed are those that make them more money and give them more power. Google has completely taken over our lives and is steering us in the wrong direction, but the good news is we can free ourselves from google. We chose to hand over control to google and we can undo this choice today. There are many alternatives to google out there. Use Duckduckgo instead of Google as your default search engine. Use other web browsers such as Firefox, Brave or Opera instead of Chrome. Avoid phones with Google’s Android operating system which has become more and more invasive and instead use other mobile operating systems such as Symbian (Nokia phones).

Quit social media

Social media today is not just a way for people to keep in touch with each other. Big tech, because they are driven by greed for profits and power naturally found a way to monetize our attention. We, the users are now the product. The more time you spend on social media, the more money they make off you. It doesn’t matter how unhealthy this is for you. They will do whatever it takes to keep your attention. This means filling your newsfeed with things that will cause an emotional reaction in you – anger, anxiety, fear, envy – it doesn’t matter to them. They don’t care if you become a nervous wreck or get depressed. They will keep feeding you with more of the things that keep you glued to your screen. How do you survive this? It’s easy, just quit social media and stay away from their attempts to control you. Instead of relying on your social media feed for news, find one or two reliable voices of truth and subscribe to them. Then kick Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Tik Tok and all the rest out of your life. You don’t need them and you will manage just fine without them. In reality, they need you; it’s just unfortunate that they can’t help but use you and abuse you.

Protect your mental health

The global elites have thrown all caution to the wind and taken off their kiddy gloves in their effort to take over the world. They believe that using fear and other mind control techniques will give them the control they lust for. They see us as nothing more than sheeple to be driven this way and that way until we fall in line with their desired end goal. As far as they are concerned, it is time for their grand plan, their Great Reset, to come to fruition. Now more than ever, we need to protect our mental health from the non-stop disaster news cycles and the other techniques they are using to scare us into submission. To protect your mental health, find a healing practice that suits you and make time for it preferably every week. Meditation, therapy, journaling, music, exercise or yoga are some practices you could engage in. You could also engage in artistic pursuits such as painting, pottery, dance, etc. Whatever you decide to do, make time for it and prioritize it. It has never been more important to protect your mental health because there is a deliberate effort to destroy it.

Spend time in nature

People are much more stressed today than they were in previous ages. Balancing work and family has never been easy, but as economies get destroyed by the elites, life is becoming even more difficult. In their determined quest to rule the world, they will stop at nothing. They lack empathy and experience no guilt for their actions, therefore they will continue pushing humanity toward the edge until they achieve what they want, no matter how many lives get destroyed in the process. In the global south, they are using the IMF to destroy economies that were already weak, to begin with. During the covid-19 pandemic, the IMF gave loans to poorer countries on condition that they implement destructive covid restrictions on their populations. In this way, they managed to make a bad situation even worse by causing people to lose their jobs and businesses to shut down. This is the same IMF that forced structural adjustment programs (SAPs) on poor countries in the 90s, forcing civil servants out of their jobs and causing a collapse in the standard of living of most of the middle class. In the end, the more they squeeze us the faster we have to run just to remain in the same place. This can have devastating effects on our health. One way to heal ourselves is to spend more time communing with nature; soaking in the sun, watching the clouds and listening to the birds. Human beings have been made to feel as if they don’t belong in nature, as if they are separate from the world they live in. We are made to feel like intruders in a world that would be better off without us. The truth is that God gave us this planet as a platform for our growth. Therefore, we are not intruders but one with nature.

One way to heal ourselves is to spend more time communing with nature; soaking in the sun, watching the clouds and listening to the birds.

Let go of toxic people

Last but not least, we need to let go of the toxic people in our lives. These are the people who take away our energy and our joy. They suck us dry with their criticism, their negative projections and their need for attention. At this time when everything is stacked up against us, the last thing we need is anyone taking away our energy. This is the time to ruthlessly cut off the energy vampires, those narcissists in our lives who are there for no other reason than to steal our light. If you have anyone in your life who pulls you down, who consistently makes you feel bad, whom you have to keep explaining yourself to or who just won’t let you be, then it is time to cut them loose. You don’t need them; they need you because they need your light. But you are under no obligation to feed them your light because you need every ounce of energy to survive the vicious attack we are undergoing. Ask God to expose to you the people in your life who are covert narcissists who take away your energy without you knowing it. You might be surprised to find that the people you consider close friends or even family members fall in this category. Read my article Unmasking the Covert Narcissist for more information on this.

Hatred of the Mother

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When my eldest daughter was around four years old, I asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up. She replied that she wanted to be a mother…of a hundred children. At such a tender age, she was able to observe the mother flame or energy in action and knew it was something she wanted to become one day. Most women know from a very young age that they want to become mothers one day. It is almost an inborn thing. No one needs to tell you that motherhood is something you should want. It’s a desire we are born with. All that love, energy and attention we have within us need somewhere to be channelled to. All the wisdom we acquire and life lessons we learn need someone to whom we can pass them on. Motherhood is a beautiful, wondrous thing and despite how difficult it can get, it is the fulfilment of a deep longing within us. The planet itself would not exist without that loving, nurturing, birthing mother energy that ensures the survival of the species. It is something that should be honoured, celebrated and embraced by all.

Sadly, the mother energy is one of the most hated energies on this planet, second only perhaps to the feminine energy. It beats all logic why this energy should be so despised given the fact that we would not survive as a species without it. As soon as one gives birth, they suddenly come face to face with this intense hatred directed at motherhood that one would never have imagined existed before they had children. The problem is that we have co-existed with it for so long that we almost don’t see it at all. But it is all around us and it hits one like a ton of bricks as soon as the initial joy of giving birth starts subsiding. Those who don’t have children may wonder what I am talking about while those who do have children may not be aware of just how intense this hatred is because we have lived with it for so long that it became the only way we know how to exist. But I can assure you that whether you sense it or not, there is intense hatred of the mother energy on this planet and it is something we need to become aware of if we are to rise above it.

… I can assure you that whether you sense it or not, there is intense hatred of the mother energy on this planet and it is something we need to become aware of if we are to rise above it.

Let’s start with what a woman is faced with once she becomes a mother. In our African context, once you become a mother you are considered damaged goods. In other words, it becomes very hard for someone to want you as a wife if you already have children. It’s almost as if the children soil you in some way. What a shameful attitude. How is it possible that going through the most beautiful, life-giving experience somehow makes you damaged goods? And yet this is an attitude that is prevalent in Africa and other parts of the world. We have grown so accustomed to this attitude that we don’t even question it. The more children you have, the less valuable you become. A lot of men here say that they could maybe accept a woman with one child but not more than that. And they consider themselves heroes for the fact that they can accept a woman with one child. This is something you hear stated all the time, but do we ever stop to ask ourselves where this attitude, this intense hatred of the mother energy comes from? Why do we accept it as if it was the most normal attitude for a person to have? How comes we don’t have the same attitude towards fathers? Men who have children do not have a corresponding hatred directed towards them. Why would we hate the very energy that nurtures us and brings forth life on the planet? It beats all logic. The message this sends to women is that motherhood makes them less desirable, less valuable and less attractive. You can imagine the cognitive dissonance this causes women. On the one hand, you look forward to becoming a mother but on the other hand, you know that once you become a mother you are quite literally “damaged”.

There are many other ways mothers are devalued and we have become so accustomed to it that we don’t even stop to question it. Bringing up a child is no joke; it is hard work especially in the early days. But mothers have to do this alone unless they happen to have a supportive husband which is rare. This is why some women end up getting postpartum depression and society just acts as if there is something wrong with them for getting depressed after giving birth. But the miracle I think is that not all women end up depressed after giving birth. It’s worse in the modern age because the extended family structure has been broken. This is especially true in the west where people are brainwashed into thinking that it is a sin to live with your extended family. We are supposed to be “independent”. Everyone is supposed to move out of their parents’ houses as quickly as possible and any delay in doing so is judged harshly by society. Older parents are quickly sent to expensive care homes, which makes no sense because the extended family structure is the very one that would offer support, especially to mothers. Why is it that we work so hard to arrange society in the most inconvenient way possible? It just beats all logic.

We need to question some of these beliefs we hold so dearly and ask ourselves where they came from. Who benefits when society is broken up and support structures dismantled? Think about it. Without support structures, people need to work non-stop looking for food, rent, clothing and other basic needs. We literally have to work to live, all so that we can work some more. We do not have the luxury to stop running the treadmill. Who benefits the most from this? Well, just follow the money as they say. The ones who make money off of everyone remaining on the treadmill are the ones who benefit the most from the break up of the extended family structure. Plain and simple, it’s the elites. The industrialists, the factory owners, the business owners. They’re the ones who brainwashed us into believing that we need to be independent, we need to be on our own. This ensures we get trapped in the nine to five routine that benefits them while hurting us. Have you ever wondered why babies have to be trained from birth to be independent by leaving them alone in their rooms to cry it out? It’s because independence is a very unnatural thing that goes counter to how we are created as human beings. We are created to be close to each other and live in oneness with each other. The only way this instinct can be broken is by brutally training a child from birth to learn that there is no one coming, they are on their own and they have to learn to survive on their own.

Another way we see this hatred of the mother energy is in the way women are treated at the workplace once they have children. I remember when I interviewed for my first job, one of the questions I was asked was whether I intended to get children. Naturally, I said yes and although this didn’t stop me from getting the job, it just exposed the negative attitude employers have towards motherhood. It is an inconvenience, an unwelcome interruption for the organisation. When I was expecting my third child, my boss called me aside for a pep-talk. Had I considered a more effective form of birth control? Could my husband maybe consider getting the snip? I wish I was making this up but I’m not. This was an actual conversation I had with my boss. As you can imagine, motherhood was anything but celebrated at my workplace even though they made a few token efforts to show their support of motherhood such as introducing a creche for new mothers. But the underlying attitude was one of irritation at having to make the necessary adjustments to accommodate a pregnant worker. I don’t blame my former employer because this attitude is merely representative of the attitude in the wider community. The negative attitude towards mothers needs to be changed at the wider community level. No amount of superficial “benefits” by employers can disguise the underlying hatred of the mother energy that is present in society.

What about the hit mothers take to their careers once they start getting children? If we lived in a society that supported motherhood this would not be the case. Employers would willingly make the adjustments necessary to support motherhood, from flexitime to working from home to part-time work to job sharing without punishing mothers by withholding promotions or making them feel like they are not fully committed to the job because they have other responsibilities to attend to. This expectation employers have that people should be one hundred per cent committed to their jobs is simply ridiculous and it’s unclear why we tolerate it. Employers do not expect employees to even hint at having other things in life apart from their jobs. You do whatever is expected of you, you come in early and leave late and work over weekends if you have to. It is almost as if we were put on this earth solely to be employees and nothing else matters. It is considered a sin to even look like you have other priorities in life apart from your employer. It is completely unreasonable what employers expect of their employees. Even taking a sick child to the hospital is considered a waste of precious employer time. HOW DID WE GET HERE?!

This expectation employers have that people should be one hundred per cent committed to their jobs is simply ridiculous and it’s unclear why we tolerate it.

Another form of hatred of the mother energy is the hatred that is directed towards our mother earth. If you consider that the planet is our mother because it nurtures us and provides for our needs, then you’ll realize that many among us have an intense hatred towards the earth. There are people whose attitude towards the earth is one of wanting to loot and plunder and mine and extract until everything is finished and the land is laid bare. They have no love for the earth, no desire to preserve or protect and no remorse for their destructive activities. Left to their own devices, these people would continue mindlessly robbing the planet of all that is good until we have no planet left to live in. These people cut down forests and release toxic gases into the air which mess up the environment and cause the climate change we are all panicking about. They release waste products into the oceans with no concern for the damage they cause. They mindlessly pursue profit over everything and will continue doing so unless they are stopped by those who care for the planet. They produce more and more nuclear weapons with no regard for how this endangers us all. They have no conscience and will not stop until everything on the planet is destroyed. What is this attitude if not hatred of the mother energy? How do you destroy that which nurtures you and is the only home we have?

We need to wake up and become conscious of the intense mother hatred that is present on this planet and refuse to continue existing in such a toxic, self-defeating environment. We need to protect mothers, honour them, support them and surround them with love as they undertake this very important role of bringing forth life. We need to reject all forms of mother hatred including hatred of the planet because without it we will not have a home.

Unmasking the Covert Narcissist

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When you think of a narcissist, what is the first thing that comes to mind? For most of us, what comes to mind is the brash, aggressive, loud, confident person who will do anything to attract attention and whose ego walks into the room even before they do. This is the traditional view of the narcissist which many of us are aware of and it’s not incorrect, it’s just that this is nowhere near the full story. The reality is that there is a form of narcissism that is hidden from view, that is hard to detect except to the trained eye and if anything, is even more dangerous than overt narcissism which can be spotted from a mile away. This hidden form of narcissism is what is known as covert narcissism.

A narcissist, whether overt or covert is driven by the compulsion to have certain underlying needs met, which is what leads to their narcissistic, selfish behaviour. We know that narcissists crave attention, and while the overt narcissist will force you to meet this need through aggressive and unreasonable demands, the covert narcissist will use manipulation to get you to meet their needs. They may do this for example through pity plays whereby they portray themselves as the victim of life’s unfairness. The underlying need for attention is the same in both narcissists, it’s just that the strategy for meeting the need is different. We also know that narcissists have an inflated sense of their own importance. While the overt narcissist will openly show their inflated ego by putting down others or trying to outdo them, the covert narcissist will display this in more subtle ways such as through the belief that they are always right, which means they will hardly ever listen to or consider or accept others’ views. Covert narcissists also lack empathy just like overt narcissists do, it’s just that the covert narcissist hides their lack of empathy through the good-guy act. The overt narcissist simply doesn’t care what you think of his behaviour towards you while the covert narcissist is always haunted by the threat of exposure and will therefore go to great lengths to hide their real self. They will sabotage you while pretending to be innocently unaware of what they are doing, maybe even apologizing profusely when you confront them, but this is just an act. At their core, they are not good people and will behave in the same ways over and over again, all the while pretending to be the good guy.

The overt narcissist simply doesn’t care what you think of his behaviour towards you while the covert narcissist is always haunted by the threat of exposure and will therefore go to great lengths to hide their real self.

The interesting thing about covert narcissists is that they genuinely believe they are the good guys. You will find this type of narcissist hidden behind a façade of godliness, family man, best friend, advisor, counsellor, etc. The most dangerous thing about the covert narcissist is that you won’t see them coming. At least with the overt narcissist, once you know how to identify the signs, it becomes very easy to spot them and thus keep your distance. With the covert narcissist, it’s a whole new ball game. This person could be in your life for decades, draining your energy and driving you almost to the point of insanity, but you will never know that you are dealing with a narcissist. Many people in long term relationships with covert narcissists attribute their troubled relationships to normal relationship hiccups that can be resolved if only they are patient enough, put in enough effort or love their partner enough. But despite everything, the relationship never gets better, it only keeps getting worse until eventually after decades of suffering, they may decide to throw in the towel and leave. The irony is that to the outside world, it will always appear as if they were married to the perfect person, the ultimate good guy, and no one will understand why they decided to leave.

What could cause a narcissist to go into stealth mode? In many cases, it may be because the narcissist himself was brought up by a narcissistic parent and they learnt early enough that they had to hide their own narcissism in order to survive their narcissistic parent. They simple learnt other ways of meeting their narcissistic needs without antagonizing their narcissistic parent. It could also be that the narcissist simply developed the most efficient way of meeting his needs in line with his personality. While the overt narcissist will use aggression and force to have his needs met, the covert narcissist simply learnt that he is most likely to have his needs met through manipulation. Therefore, the underlying need is still being met, it’s just that each type of narcissist uses a different strategy to achieve this.

So now that we know that narcissists do not all behave the same, how do we identify the covert narcissist and keep ourselves from falling into their dangerous traps? Well, there are some signs to look out for that could help you identify this type of person but you need to pay close attention as they are subtle and will likely not ring any alarm bells at the beginning of a relationship. If you are already in a long term relationship with a covert narcissist, these signs will help you understand what you are dealing with and why no matter how hard you try your relationship never seems to settle down into an easy, harmonious ride but is always full of bumps.

They are passive-aggressive

A covert narcissist will never confront you head-on; they would rather hide their aggression and fury and passively confront you. For example, they may retreat behind a wall of silence, giving you the silent treatment which may go on for extended periods. By not confronting you directly but rather showing their displeasure in this manner, it enables them to maintain their good-guy image and at the same time manipulate you into wanting to restore the peace. For normal people, the silent treatment is an unbearable punishment that hits you at your very core making you want to do anything to end it, even if it means apologizing and taking the blame for something that was not your fault. The covert narcissist lacking in empathy can employ sustained silent treatments without themselves feeling the pain that a normal person feels. Other forms of passive-aggression they employ include coming late or not showing up for meetings or dates thereby communicating how unimportant you are. They may also embarrass you with other people present knowing that you can do nothing about it, then later behave as if nothing happened or as if it was all innocent fun. If you suspect you may be in a relationship with a covert narcissist, think about all the ways they treat you badly while still maintaining an image of themselves as the good guy. Think of the ways they make it look like they are not really doing anything while you who are on the receiving end know they are doing something and whatever it is they are doing is hurtful.

2. They think of themselves as victims

The covert narcissist always has a sob story from their past that they use to manipulate you into pitying them and giving them the attention they need. They will talk about how their last girlfriend cheated on them, how their parents divorced when they were young and they never got over it, how their boss has it in for them and is making their life miserable, how their colleagues at work are jealous and take all the credit for their achievement, how they were abused as children, how they lost their jobs and can’t find a new one, etc. The thing is, no one is denying that bad things happen to people all the time. The fact is, bad things do happen to everyone, but one way or the other, we learn to cope, we overcome these problems and maybe even learn from them and grow to become better people. We were never meant to remain in the same place years later, blaming all our problems on our parents’ divorce or our cheating spouse. We are supposed to learn our lessons from whatever happened and move on to become better people. The covert narcissist however will not want to move on from whatever happened in the past. They will use this victimhood to paint themselves in a positive light or to make themselves appear like a martyr. They will drain your energy with their constant need for validation and reassurance which goes beyond the normal need for comfort that one experiences immediately after something bad happens to them. The covert narcissist will wear their victimhood like a cloak that is constant and unchanging which therefore means they need to be handled with tender loving care all the time. Mind you meanwhile, they will not be interested in hearing about your suffering but will expect you to provide a listening ear to their woes. It is a constant need for attention that will eventually drain you and drive you up the wall.

3. They lack emotional availability

One hallmark of narcissists is their lack of emotional availability and this is true of the covert narcissist as well. If you’re in a long-term relationship with a covert narcissist, you will feel alone in the relationship. They will be there with you in the physical sense, but you might as well be alone in the relationship for all the emotional support you will get from them. Whereas they will expect you to listen to them and support them in whatever they may be going through, the same courtesy will not be accorded to you. Your issues will be minimized if not dismissed altogether, while their issues will be made to feel life-threatening and all-important. They will suck all your emotional energy until you constantly feel drained, but they will never invest their emotions in you. If you go through difficulties, be it a job loss, difficulties at work, or the loss of a loved one, you will do it alone. While the covert narcissist will be good at making all the right noises e.g., claiming to want to work at the relationship, with time you will realize that that’s all they are, noises, but underneath there is no real interest in making the changes necessary to make the relationship work. If you find yourself feeling as if you are all alone in a relationship, then your partner could be a covert narcissist.

4. They will never compliment you

When you’re in a normal, healthy relationship with a normal, healthy person, you will always find things about each other that you appreciate, that you want to compliment. With a covert narcissist, this will be strangely absent. Due to their inner insecurities or perhaps inflated ego, they will never want to admit that you can do anything good or anything worthy of complimenting. Behind this is also the fact that the narcissist probably envies you for the qualities you have that they will never have. Ironically, these qualities are the same ones that drew the narcissist to you, that made you a target, but once in a relationship with them, they will envy you for your positive qualities and thus you will never hear a compliment come out of their mouths. At the end of the day, a narcissist wants to feel like they are better than you, hence the subtle put-downs you experience from them. They will deny you the satisfaction of feeling good about something you have done or a positive quality you possess. Think of the sullen bully in the playground who feels bad when everyone is happy and having a good time. How likely is it that this kind of person will ever compliment you for the good in you when anything good in you only draws attention away from them?

5. They are empty inside

When you spend enough time with a narcissist, there is one thing that will always gnaw at you at the back of your mind. This person feels empty in a way that you can’t quite put your finger on. With time, you start realizing that you don’t know who this person is however long you have been with them. Whereas with a normal, healthy person, you will always get a sense of who they are in terms of their likes and dislikes, their beliefs, their opinions, their quirks and proclivities, with a covert narcissist you will get the sense almost like they are playing a role. You will almost feel like they don’t know who they are because they are like chameleons that adapt to whatever environment they are in. Sometimes you will feel as if they are taking on your characteristics; for example, if at some point in the past you expressed interest in something, you will hear them later proclaim interest in the same thing without ever mentioning that they got the idea from you. You will also notice that they subtly behave like whoever they happen to be hanging out with at the time. This emptiness is a particular trait of narcissists whereby they adapt to whatever environment they are in and become whoever they need to be in order to have their needs met. With a covert narcissist, this is very subtle and you may not notice it as easily as you will notice it with the overt narcissist who will display his emptiness conspicuously in his eagerness to draw you in. With the covert narcissist, this is, unfortunately, something you may only notice after a long time of being with them. You may experience this almost as a niggling feeling, a question in your mind that surfaces from time to time: who are you?

6. They have troubled relationships

Due to their difficult nature, narcissists have one characteristic in common and that is their troubled relationships. With the overt narcissist, this will not be so difficult to understand as their aggressive, ruthless or openly brutal nature is easy to observe. With the covert narcissist, it will be more subtle. Although they come across as good guys, you will find that they have many troubled relationships at work, at home, with ex-partners, with siblings, parents or even with people who were previously their friends. The reality is, even though they may be able to fool some people with their good guy act, their underlying selfishness will always cause problems in their relationships. Naturally, with their victimhood mentality, they will have various ways to justify these troubled relationships and they may somehow succeed in fooling you. But the longer you stay with them, the more you will start to question whether the problem is the other people or the problem lies with them. It’s normal of course to have one or two troubled relationships, but if you observe this pattern consistently manifest itself in all their relationships, then you need to start questioning the narrative which paints them as the victim. Is it true that they cannot hold a job because all their bosses somehow have it in for them? Is it probable that all their colleagues are jealous of their accomplishments? Is it possible that all their exes are evil, manipulative people? Or is the problem seated right there in front of you in form of the covert narcissist?

7. They feel as if they own you

If you have been with a narcissist for any length of time, you will start having the vague feeling that this person thinks they own you. They will somehow want to curtail your freedoms, they will want to know where you’re going and what you’re doing and who you’re with, they will want to control what you do with your money, how you dress, who your friends are, etc. It is almost as if they see you as an extension of themselves. Rather than seeing you as a human being in your own right with your own personhood, they see you as part of them. With the covert narcissist, this will be done in subtle ways such as going through your phone, using sarcasm to manipulate you into doing what they want, lecturing you about the kind of people you hang out with, etc. While the overt narcissist will aggressively exert their control over you through brutal force, the covert narcissist will manipulate you into doing what he wants for example by questioning your choices, by mocking what you want to do, or by pretending to be concerned about you. In the end, without quite understanding why you will feel that this person thinks they own you and they are convinced of their right to exert their will over you.

While the overt narcissist will aggressively exert their control over you through brutal force, the covert narcissist will manipulate you into doing what he wants for example by questioning your choices, by mocking what you want to do, or by pretending to be concerned about you.

8. They think they know it all / they think they are God

When you spend enough time in a relationship with a covert narcissist, you will realize that the possibility that they could ever be wrong seldom crosses their mind. As far as they are concerned, they are always right and thus it is their way or the highway. It is almost as if they think they are God, so convinced are they of how right they are or how wise their views are. Whatever opinion or view they have seems to them to have come straight from God, thereby affirming their oneness with God. And if they are one with God, aren’t they then God? If God is speaking through them, doesn’t that then mean that when they speak it is the voice of God that is speaking? And if you argue with them, aren’t you arguing with God? If you happen to be with the religious types, they will be firm believers in the ideology that God has placed his mantle of leadership on them and thus they have a God-given right to rule over you. They will firmly believe in the natural hierarchy or order of things whereby God speaks to them and they, in turn, speak God’s word to you. It will never occur to them that God could speak directly to you. So firm is their conviction that we might as well dispense with the necessity of having a God who is separate from them and instead consider them as God Himself in the flesh.

What is the Fallen Consciousness?

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Recently I watched two documentaries that got me thinking about something that many of us never consciously consider and yet is a major part of the world we live in. One of the documentaries was called ‘Coded Bias’ in which some clever people discover that artificial intelligence which uses data that is gathered from our collective use of the internet has some inbuilt biases for example biases against women and biases against people of colour. The interesting thing about this is that the artificial intelligence uses raw data that is fed into it and it produces a result which is an accurate reflection of the world we live in. The problem of course comes in when we try to use artificial intelligence to carry out tasks such as recruitment or facial recognition or performance evaluations. Then we run into problems because the system naturally perpetuates the biases we already have and makes them even worse. The biases in our society such as the ones mentioned above naturally find their way into the system because the system can only work with the information it is fed. In layman’s terms, this is what is known as garbage in, garbage out. Unfortunately, this is taking place in the world of technology which these days is affecting our lives more and more in ways that we don’t even know yet. The worst part about it is that it took people who are really smart in I.T. and mathematics to notice this problem. In other words, this is something that the average person would never actually be able to notice.

The biases in our society such as the ones mentioned above naturally find their way into the system because the system can only work with the information it is fed. In layman’s terms, this is what is known as garbage in, garbage out.

Which brings me to the title of this article. What is the fallen consciousness? The fallen consciousness is something like the bias that is hidden inside all the raw data that is difficult to perceive, but becomes very clear once the data runs through the system because of the result it produces. Basically, the fallen consciousness is a way of thinking that is very hard to notice or perceive in yourself or in others, but it becomes very clear from the results it produces. How many times have we looked at the world we live in and wondered why is the world is in such a mess? Well, it is because of the garbage in, garbage out phenomenon. We are constantly feeding garbage into the system and then we wonder why the system produces garbage. But what exactly do I mean when I say we are feeding garbage into the system?

Well, this now brings me to the second documentary I watched which is a prime example of how we feed garbage into the system. The documentary is called ‘Inside Job’ and it talks about a topic that many of us are familiar with. The financial collapse of 2008. How did this collapse happen? It happened because of greed. Greed is an example of the fallen consciousness because it is a way of thinking that says I am the most important person; I should be able to have everything I want and everyone else can pretty much go to hell; I am more deserving than anyone else of all the good things life has to offer. Now, if you meet a person with this way of thinking, you would probable not be able to see it in them immediately. They probably don’t even see it in themselves. This way of thinking only becomes clear once it is taken through the system and then it produces a result, which in this case was the global financial collapse. Many of us of course suffer from various degrees of greed, but in this case, it was greed that was taken to the very extreme and it produced an extreme result which then became obvious to everyone.

Another good example of this same way of thinking is clearly emerging from the ongoing covid-19 pandemic and specifically on the issue of vaccines. What is clearly emerging is what is starting to be known as vaccine apartheid, which is whereby the rich countries are grabbing for themselves most of the vaccine supplies in the planet, in many cases much more than they even need, while the rest of the world goes without. One of the features of the fallen consciousness is that it thinks that you can hurt others without actually hurting yourself. What we are seeing with the vaccine apartheid is that as the rich nations grab for themselves all the vaccines, we are giving the virus time to mutate and form other variants that are then going to prolong the pandemic and maybe even eventually render the vaccines we currently have useless. If only we could distribute the vaccines more equitably around the globe, we could significantly slow down the spread of the virus and its ability to mutate.

I hope you are now starting to see what the fallen consciousness is. Its not just one thing, its many things. It’s a way of thinking that says some people are better than others, some people are more deserving than others, there is not enough for everyone, I can hurt others without hurting myself, etc. If you feed enough of this way of thinking into the system, then you end up with the world we live in today. The world we live in is a reflection of the fallen consciousness, it is a reflection of what we have been feeding into the system, knowingly or unknowingly.

The world we live in is a reflection of the fallen consciousness, it is a reflection of what we have been feeding into the system, knowingly or unknowingly.

I want to give a small analogy of how the fallen consciousness basically makes the world hell for everyone who lives in it. Imagine there’s a giant wall and on the other side of the wall is paradise. All humanity needs to do is come together and find a way that will enable everyone to climb over the wall into paradise. Sounds easy enough, right? But as everyone is busy thinking of how we could find a way for everyone to enter into paradise, a rumor begins circulating among the people. The rumor says that actually, there’s not enough room for everyone in paradise. Only some people will be able to go to paradise, not everyone. Now, no one has actually been to paradise, so no one actually knows whether this is true or not. But sooner or later, everyone starts believing that there is not enough room in paradise for everyone. What starts happening is that some people give up on the idea of ever making it to paradise and decide to just make do with what is here on this side. Some people even completely forget that they were trying to get to paradise and they just find other things to do and other ways of distracting themselves. Soon, only half of the population is even trying to get into paradise. This is the first level of the fallen consciousness.

Of the people that are now actively trying to get into paradise, suddenly another rumor starts circulating. It seems that actually not everyone deserves to enter into paradise. This becomes very confusing for many as its not clear exactly what this means. Soon, many criteria start emerging as people try to determine who is worthy of entering into paradise and who is not. Some say only a certain race deserves to enter, some say only a certain religion deserves to enter, some say only a certain gender, only a certain skin color, only a certain profession, only a certain sexual orientation, etc. The criteria is really arbitrary and everyone tries to come up with their own version. This causes a lot of tension as most people believe their criteria to be correct and reject everyone else’s criteria. People start discreetly supporting the criteria they agree with while opposing the criteria they don’t agree with. Soon enough, laws have to be created which subtly and not so subtly support one criterion and then it becomes necessary to brutally enforce these laws because many people violently oppose the laws. The curious thing about this particular level of the fallen consciousness is that many people can clearly see that this is unfair when the criteria works against them, but they are not able to see the unfairness when it works for them. This is the second level of the fallen consciousness and as you can see it is a very chaotic system that keeps everyone very busy fighting and arguing about who is deserving and who is not and everyone tries to prove that they are deserving while at the same time trying to keep out those they consider not deserving to enter paradise.

While everyone is busy trying to sort out the mess, about one percent of the population comes together and says look, it would be nice if all these people could get into paradise, but imagine how much nicer it would be if only we were in paradise. We could basically have it all! We would have so much that we would never again have to lack. So, while everyone is busy fighting each other, why don’t we come up with a system that will allow only us to enter into paradise and leave out all these other dummies that are fighting amongst themselves? The next level of the fallen consciousness is thus created. Of course, this has to be well hidden from everyone else so that no one would know what is happening. The one percent called this level capitalism, which is a clever way of disguising the fallen consciousness of greed (Boris Johnson the PM of the UK very eloquently confirmed this recently). The one percent then got everyone to accept that indeed this is the best system, maybe even the only true system, it is based on meritocracy therefore guarantees that only the truly deserving can actually make it into paradise. Capitalism therefore becomes the dominant way of thinking and everyone is fooled into agreeing that anything else is dangerous and false.

As you can imagine, what was initially a simple task has now been transformed into the most impossible task imaginable. Everyone apart from the one percent is now living in hell on earth and some start blaming god for creating such a messy situation. If god was all powerful and all good they say, then he would never have allowed this to happen. Therefore, the only conclusion is that either god doesn’t exist or he is not all powerful or he is not all good. Of course, what they fail to realize is that god did not create the fallen consciousness that produced the mess. The people themselves created the fallen consciousness and they fed it into the system and the system produced a result. The only way out of the mess is to stop using the fallen consciousness and simply come up with a system that allows everyone to cross over into paradise. Simple enough task, wouldn’t you say?

I hope this article helps you understand what the fallen consciousness is and enables you to see it in yourself and in others. Obviously, the fallen consciousness comes in many shapes and forms but I hope you can now see how it runs through and affects everything in the world we live in. My sincere hope is that we start realizing that the only way out of this mess is to create a just world in which the fallen consciousness has no place.